Your Ex's Friends – How To Deal With Them After Divorce

Most couples have a circle of friends. You have friends, your ex has friends and together you meet other couples during the course of your relationship.

Some of these friends were very close with you and others, you only saw occasionally. Regardless, a divorce will change your relationship with many of those people.

The easiest way to think about how you are going to deal with your ex’s friends after your separation or divorce is to realize that your friends will basically fall into three categories.

Friends that side with you.

Friends that side with your ex.

Friends who don’t take a side.

Friends who support your ex and clearly come down on their side are the ones that can be most difficult to deal with.

Dealing with your ex’s friends during those awkward moments when you meet in public can be somewhat embarrassing and nerve racking. To help get through this situation you should start by remembering one simple thing – there is nothing you can do about it.

Regardless of what you say or do there is nothing you can probably do, at that precise moment, to change their minds and rethink their position. These people have sided with your ex and any attempt to change their mind is probably futile.

The best thing to do is be polite and cordial. Have a brief conversation if they seemed so inclined. Be very brief. Don’t be afraid to engage in polite conversation and quickly move on. It’s better to have a conversation that is brief and light, rather then long and bitter.

Move along and remain polite the entire time.

In the long run, this strategy will help you.

Be polite and move on!

Gary Kelly is co-creator of the online dating website for golfers, http://www.DateAGolfer.com and http://www.PuttingForPar.com, a golf website specializing in personalized ball markers.